I've been debating this post for awhile now. Normally I don't like to post things that are rude or offensive, that are directed at anyone in particular, or that could be hurtful to others. And I truly hope that you aren't offended when you read this. But after this past week, I really need to say something and I hope that you will listen. If you are offended, I am sorry.
My husband and I don't have children. And that is ok. Since the day we got married, we have been bombarded with questions and comments about when we are going to start a family. I have tried to be polite and smile through all of the comments, questions and suggestions regarding our childless state. And this week, I finally decided I have had enough.
It is no one's business how many children we have or don't have except ours (and the Lords!). I am not a freak because I don't have children. Nor am I a bad person. I don't owe anyone a reason why we don't have any. I don't deserve to be frowned on, talked down to, given lectures, suggestions or dirty looks. Nor do the scores of other people I know who don't have children.
I know that the majority of the people who say things care just want us to share the same happiness they have found in their children. I'm happy to celebrate your children and grand-chlidren with you. I will look at pictures and listen to all of the stories you have to share.
But please refrain from telling me how I should or shouldn't be living my life. I was fearfully and wonderfully made by a loving Creator who is just fine with me the way I am. For those who don't like that answer, you are always welcome to take that up with the Lord. I'm just not listening to it anymore.